Living from the Heart

Our hearts are certainly complex and capable of opening and embracing the most unexpected dualities and differences. The heart will feel what it feels even when it is not convenient and doesn’t look good on paper.  It can inspire us to become better human beings when we dig deep and have the capacity to forgive what is seen as unforgivable. It has the capacity to heal us by opening up even after it has been broken or start over when it seems that all has been lost.  It can find a path through adversity where our thinking mind would be rendered useless.  Love, compassion and empathy can flow freely through the heart where the mind would be calculating and planning to see what makes the most sense.  

The best way is to make use of both the mind and the heart.    Most of us are skewed and rely heavily on our rational, logical thinking and don’t balance it with the wisdom  and perspective that is available to us from our hearts. Bowing the head to the heart in a symbolic act of surrender to love and openness can feel like a leap of faith. It might even  feel scary and foreign in certain situations.  What do you have to loose?  You can put your boundary back in place if need be but how often do you consciously take the walls down and open up?  Try approaching something with kindness instead of judgement or criticism and see how it works.  I have witnessed kindness, openness and love completely disarm and transform the most difficult and complex situations.   

Without being open and loving to ourselves first it is not possible to offer this to others. We can only be open and loving to others to the extent that we have offered this to ourselves.

Collectively we are being called to go deeper into our hearts and learn how to live from its center.  It is our only hope if we are to overcome the division that is currently so common place in the world.  Meeting life with the mind connected to the heart begins as an inner journey and extends beyond our personal lives touching all who we come into contact with.  

Corona virus – Spiritual update

The corona virus presents all of humanity with a unique spiritual opportunity. It is very important to stay informed but also to not reach the” tipping point” where you are gripped by fear.

This virus has many messages one is to stop what you are doing and become still. Unplug from your usual routine and use this time to strengthen spiritually. When do we ever all have this opportunity? Most spiritual insights and wisdom come when we are quiet and still and when we are challenged we grow the most.

When we get sick we know something is out of balance and we generally have to take some time to rebalance our system and become well. This is a global illness that is effecting many many human beings and it is time to rebalance both personally and universally.

What does this mean? It will take time to glean all the wisdom from our current situation.  If you go within rest assured you will know what you need to do to become more balanced internally and externally.

We are being asked to tend to ourselves and in so doing we are taking care of the whole of humanity. What a beautiful and timely metaphor! We may not be able to be in each others physical presence at this time but now more than ever we can see the evidence of our interconnectedness. Trust that we are in a great process of change and embrace it to the best of your ability.

Sending you all so much love!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Keep it Simple

I’ve always felt when things become overly complex that something is amiss. It’s no different when thinking about topics such as spirituality, healing work, mediation and anything you are learning.  I’m going to bring up the obvious because it can be easily overlooked partly because it is so simple.   

During meditation you are aware of your thoughts, right?  I’m sure the moment you sit down the thinking becomes loud and even very distracting for a majority of meditators.  I’m venturing a guess here that most, if not all, have to contend with thoughts when they sit to meditate.  This is one of the things that makes meditation so difficult and unappealing. When you think about it it’s almost absurd  that your success as a meditator is governed by your ability to stop thoughts!!  I’m going to propose a slight change in focus instead of trying to stop the thoughts.  

Thoughts arise and YOU see them. 

Some come up and easily pass and others come up and can cause you great disturbance.  Either way, instead of just watching thoughts come and go begin to notice who can see the  coming and going?  It’s so obvious but it is so easily overlooked.  If thoughts come and go WHO is watching them?  

If possible I’m going to ask you to turn your attention toward what or who is watching.  Don’t have an expectation about what you will find just sense into it.  I don’t want to say too much about this because it is an important experience and I don’t want you to have any preconceived ideas about it.  You have to experience it for yourself.   

To whom or to what are the thoughts arising? Who is seeing the thoughts?  

You don’t need to have an answer to these questions.  My suggestion is to contemplate this for yourself.  Take your time and notice how this is as you turn your attention to what is watching. 

Once you become aware of this it is possible you will begin to notice this when you are not meditating but at first it may be helpful to try this in a relatively quiet and focused way.  

You are now focused on the source rather than on what comes and goes.

For some this will be very powerful and you will know who you are.  Looking this way repeatedly will have an incremental effect because you empower the source in your life through your continued attention.

If you don’t have a powerful experience don’t worry there is nothing wrong.  It’s good to know you are the one watching and you never know when it could resonate more strongly.  Life has a way of bringing you what you need when you need it.   Be on the look out.

To be continued…

Take a break from thinking

Who has ever tried to take a break from thinking?  Certainly anyone who attempts to meditate is trying to stop the thoughts or at least notice the gaps between thoughts.

Are you the voice in your head? Or are you beyond the voice in your head?  I’m sure you’ve noticed that there can be one or more voices inside offering different or even conflicting view points.  I’m sure you have attempted to shut off the voices that cause you disturbance.  Like the one that admonishes you for eating that piece of cake or critiques your behavior at a party.  Or how about the one who reviews how you handled a challenging situation?  These are just some of the voices that can show up regularly.  These are the voices that cause us suffering especially when we believe what is being said.

Then there are other ones that make us feel good about ourselves.  Like, “hey, you resisted the urge to have that cake; way to go!”  Or the one who pats you on the back for saying just the right thing to a friend in need.  I’m sure without even asking, that the voices are constant, all day long, and don’t stop until you are unconscious when you sleep. It is considered normal to live this way but it is exhausting!! It’s like living on a rollercoaster, one moment feeling like the dregs of the earth and the next feeling elated.   I’m feeling tired just writing about it!!

Michael Singer in his book The Unteathered Soul says;  “if you’re saying, what voice? I don’t have a voice in my head. That’s the voice! “   You may ask why am I making you aware of this.  Isn’t it normal?  It is normal for us to think and to be aware of our thoughts.  In fact we do this all the time without effort.   Problems arise when we get overly identified with negative, self critical or habitual thinking that keeps us caught in an unending loop of suffering.  It is this very suffering that causes us to seek and find relief from our own mind.  As a result we grow in ways that we would never consciously choose.

The major point I want to make here is that you have a choice.  You can choose to pay attention to the thoughts or you can choose to allow them to pass.  It may take some practice to be able to watch a strong habitual thought and not go with it but I recommend giving this a try.  Your freedom lies on the other side of these thoughts that are designed to keep you in suffering.  This does not mean that feelings will not arise.  Strong thoughts generate strong feelings in our bodies and that can make it more challenging.  Can you allow the feelings state to be there but not indulge the negative thinking that accompanies it?  If you can practice this and not believe the thinking pretty soon the feeling state will also dissipate.  Eckhart Tolle’ says, “take one conscious breath.”  Remember you are not your thoughts and you are not your feelings.  You are the one who sees both therefore they cannot be who you are.

Why is this helpful?  When you remember that you are the one watching than a tremendous  unburdening can occur.  You recognize your true position and you don’t have to identify with the unending thoughts and emotions.  You are greater than all this.  It is difficult to explain how this has an effect on your being.  You have to practice and have an experience in order to understand its true power.

If this is of interest to you and would like to explore this topic in more depth please check out Mooji at mooji.org or Eckhart Tolle’ at eckharttolle.com or contact me and I will help point you in the right direction lmalfaoneheart@gmail.com.

The Attitude of Gratitude

imagesDuring the holidays it’s especially timely to talk about gratitude.  Energetically it opens energy and allows for greater flow because resistance is gone.   Without resistance life can flow and synchronicities can come to you with ease.  You will find yourself in the right place at the right time and meeting just the right people when you need them.  Gratitude puts you in harmony with whatever is unfolding in your life.  It’s like a big “thank you”  or “yes” to the universe.  

Even when life is challenging there are always things to be grateful for.  Simple things like; a hot shower, the way the sun streams through the window or a loving pet.  When you shift into looking at life this way its like moving from manual to automatic.  You are changing your state out of a heavier more stagnant energy to a lighter more flowing state.  

The reason that you will experience greater flow is simply explained and has to do with the universal law of attraction.   This universal law states that like energy will attract like energy, “like attracts like.”  If you are feeling low, worried, fearful or angry on a regular basis then this energy will attract the same from the world around you.  Many of us are unknowingly in this place and contributing to our own suffering but not really aware of it. This is why to looking with more gratitude can begin to make a change. 

The last point I want to make is about tracking what you are grateful for.  A gratitude journal can be a very powerful tool for this.  I know what you’re thinking and probably have some resistance to this idea but you didn’t get into your current state overnight and it will take some effort to get out of it.  Each night review your day, pick out the at least  3 things that made you feel grateful and write them down.  Reading them when you feel down or anytime you feel called can help you shift your energy.  If possible when you review your gratitude journal try and remember how you felt about the things you wrote down.  Feel the feeling in your body and allow it to chase away the blues. It’s like downloading new software to a computer and replacing the old feelings with the new.  This step of “feeling it” is vital for manifesting the new in your life.  Try it for a month and see what happens. You might actually enjoy it! 

When you start doing this you will feel uplifted and energized.  Change is an inside job and you can begin today by looking at life through the eyes of gratitude.