Is lasting change possible?

Will lasting change happen as a result of this pandemic?

Several people have asked me this question over the last few weeks.  

Everyone at every stage in life is effected and everyone is experiencing some degree of loss and sufferring.  It is this kind of challenge that spurs the deepest spiritual growth.  It is not something that we would willingly choose because we are pushed outside of our comfort zone.  

We can’t wiggle out of this one.  In other words, there is no way we can change it. It is out of our control.  The situation has to run its course and until it does we will have to find inner resources so that we can get through this.    

If you are in a lot of fear I recommend taking all the  practical steps that you can to help yourself.  Use all the tools at your disposal like unemployment, mortgage assistance and any other program that might be available to you now.  Make sure you have food in your house and other essential supplies and don’t go out if you are vulnerable or dealing with health challenges.  Most importantly ask for help if you need it.  We are all going through this and we are in this together. 

After you have done these things the best thing you can do is take it step by step and day by day.  Don’t get ahead of yourself.  Your mind will always conjure up the worst case scenario.  The hard part about this is that there is no way to fight a projection of your mind.  It isn’t happening now so there is no way to effectively deal with it.  When you are faced with a situation in the moment you will know how to act.  Think about it for a minute.  Have you ever faced an emergency like someone you love getting hurt or a having an accident?  In the moment you jumped into action and many people report that they didn’t think it through they just intuitively knew what to do. 

Eckhart Tolle’ talks a lot about this in his work.  Stay in the now because there is no way to deal with a thought about a possible future problem.  You can only deal with it now.  Then he recommends once you become aware that your thoughts are causing you suffering come into your body and sense your inner energy field.   This brings you quickly and easily into the present moment.  First close your eyes and feel the energy in your hands it might be subtle but with practice you will be able to feel it.  When your eyes are closed you know that you still have hands and you know that you still have a body.  I know it sounds simple but it is an excellent way to take your mind out of troubled thinking and into the present.  It is also a very healing and restorative practice because you powerfully interrupt a negative and draining habit.  

Closing your eyes and feel the energy inside your body.  Practice makes it easy, enjoyable and restorative.

The other thing I want to mention is a concept Pema Chodron talks about a lot in her work called Maitri.  It is a Buddhist term that that means unconditional friendliness towards yourself.   If for some reason you can’t focus on your inner body or it just doesn’t resonate for you try meeting your feelings differently.  We don’t know why you are having theses strong fearful or anxiety provoking thoughts and feelings but meet them with love as if it were a young child coming to you for comfort.  It’s amazing how quickly this can quiet the internal storm.   No matter what you are thinking or feeling imagine you are hearing this story from someone that you dearly love and show that same love, understanding and acceptance to yourself.  This is a practice that reaps immediate rewards because you let go of the internal fight. You can’t have a tug of war if no one is on the other side tugging back.  

I love the idea of unconditional friendliness towards ourselves.  We rarely treat ourselves with such compassion and yet we require ourselves to meet others this way.  This becomes truly possible and less effortful when we practice Maitri.  When we can bear our own suffering we are more able to bear the suffering of others and the world and this is how change takes root.    

The Rise of the Feminine (and she’s pissed)

The Rise of the Feminine (and she’s pissed!!!)

Just kidding,  kind of…

Seriously we are being thrust into a new way of being and change is happening all over the world whether we like it or not.   This is generally how major transformation must take place because few if any would willingly enter into a process of total change.

Humanity and the earth has been out of balance for a long time and masculine energy has been dominant.  This is an opportunity for  feminine energy to rise up and as you can see and feel it is very different.  It is powerful and transformational and all of humanity is slowing down and unplugging from our usual activities.  This is a call to go inward and experience life differently.

Please watch this short video below to hear a little more about the rise of the feminine.

Corona virus – Spiritual update

The corona virus presents all of humanity with a unique spiritual opportunity. It is very important to stay informed but also to not reach the” tipping point” where you are gripped by fear.

This virus has many messages one is to stop what you are doing and become still. Unplug from your usual routine and use this time to strengthen spiritually. When do we ever all have this opportunity? Most spiritual insights and wisdom come when we are quiet and still and when we are challenged we grow the most.

When we get sick we know something is out of balance and we generally have to take some time to rebalance our system and become well. This is a global illness that is effecting many many human beings and it is time to rebalance both personally and universally.

What does this mean? It will take time to glean all the wisdom from our current situation.  If you go within rest assured you will know what you need to do to become more balanced internally and externally.

We are being asked to tend to ourselves and in so doing we are taking care of the whole of humanity. What a beautiful and timely metaphor! We may not be able to be in each others physical presence at this time but now more than ever we can see the evidence of our interconnectedness. Trust that we are in a great process of change and embrace it to the best of your ability.

Sending you all so much love!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

The Attitude of Gratitude

imagesDuring the holidays it’s especially timely to talk about gratitude.  Energetically it opens energy and allows for greater flow because resistance is gone.   Without resistance life can flow and synchronicities can come to you with ease.  You will find yourself in the right place at the right time and meeting just the right people when you need them.  Gratitude puts you in harmony with whatever is unfolding in your life.  It’s like a big “thank you”  or “yes” to the universe.  

Even when life is challenging there are always things to be grateful for.  Simple things like; a hot shower, the way the sun streams through the window or a loving pet.  When you shift into looking at life this way its like moving from manual to automatic.  You are changing your state out of a heavier more stagnant energy to a lighter more flowing state.  

The reason that you will experience greater flow is simply explained and has to do with the universal law of attraction.   This universal law states that like energy will attract like energy, “like attracts like.”  If you are feeling low, worried, fearful or angry on a regular basis then this energy will attract the same from the world around you.  Many of us are unknowingly in this place and contributing to our own suffering but not really aware of it. This is why to looking with more gratitude can begin to make a change. 

The last point I want to make is about tracking what you are grateful for.  A gratitude journal can be a very powerful tool for this.  I know what you’re thinking and probably have some resistance to this idea but you didn’t get into your current state overnight and it will take some effort to get out of it.  Each night review your day, pick out the at least  3 things that made you feel grateful and write them down.  Reading them when you feel down or anytime you feel called can help you shift your energy.  If possible when you review your gratitude journal try and remember how you felt about the things you wrote down.  Feel the feeling in your body and allow it to chase away the blues. It’s like downloading new software to a computer and replacing the old feelings with the new.  This step of “feeling it” is vital for manifesting the new in your life.  Try it for a month and see what happens. You might actually enjoy it! 

When you start doing this you will feel uplifted and energized.  Change is an inside job and you can begin today by looking at life through the eyes of gratitude.